EQUALIPHOBIA AND THE GENDER WAR
by Marc H. Rudov
September 7, 2010
Power and Control
A few weeks ago, a 28-year-old woman lamented to me that she consistently encounters “losers” in her dating experiences. Upon probing further, I discovered the reason: she has equaliphobia.
Equaliphobia is the fear of equality. Why would anyone fear equality? Simple: equality strips a relationship’s participants of power and control, pillars of the gender war. With rare exception, people begin jockeying for power and control on the first date and, when children are involved, continue this inane battle after divorce.
“What is the point of dating without games? How do you know if you’re winning or losing?” -Jerry Seinfeld
Seinfeld: Episode #91, “The Couch”
The usual rationalization for equaliphobia is that men and women simply aren’t equal because: 1) men are stronger than women; 2) men outearn women.
First, the US Constitution mentions nothing about muscles, paychecks, or women — only equal treatment to all by the legislative, judicial, and executive branches of government. It does not guarantee equal jobs, pay, houses, health, wealth, or education — no special deals for specific individuals, classes of individuals, industries, companies, or states.